My new life

by Kris on August 15, 2010 · 15 comments

Happy Sunday, blogloves!

Today is not about food, or fitness. There are no recipes, no excercises, no photographs of steaming heaps of vegetables.

Today I am going to be selfish. Today I am going to talk about nothing but me. But don’t worry, you’ll get your chance to talk about you… just bear with me ;)

I have been married for one week today. And in only a week, I feel like my life has changed for the better. Not only because I have a wonderful husband, which I do, but because I feel like a gigantic weight has been lifted off of my shoulders.

Let me explain.

Before the wedding, I was worried about my weight. I was obsessing about what I ate, I was meticulous about the amount of exercise I got.  I was determined to get skinny, in any way I could. I was focused on looking my best for my wedding day- focusing on my happiness, for one day of my life. However what I failed to focus on was the happiness I would gain in the long run. I wasn’t treating my body right, so my goal was simply to be happy for one day- and go back to my usual routines after the wedding, and deal with my body issues yet again.

What I failed to see, was that maybe there were things I were doing-  obviously in less obsessive manners- that could possibly benefit me for years to come. That maybe, subconsciously, I was tapping into things I already knew about my body- things I didn’t really want to admit before.

Soon after the wedding, I felt like a great big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. In my post right before the wedding, Embracing Salads, I discussed all of the changes I felt during my wedding slimdown, and all the things I realized about myself. I finally started to notice that eating a certain way made me feel good- no stomach problems, no instant bloat… I started eating not to look good but to feel good. And in turn, I look the same as I did on my wedding day. What a revelation!

This has all hit me like a ton of bricks. I am actually excited to plan meals, to cook, to eat again. And my newfound lifestyle has just given me so much energy and passion to let everyone else know that I feel GOOD. Now, I love commenting on blogs, but rarely am I so opinionated that I NEED to respond. Lately, all I’ve wanted to do is respond.

A few days ago, Heather posted  about her eating habits,  and how they don’t really fit in with the USDA standards, but it’s fine- because it is what works for her. I couldn’t agree more- here is my response;

You know what? Three years of nutrition studies in University and I am DONE with the USDA. Yeah, yeah, I know they mean well. But we have an obesity epidemic on our hands and no one has stopped to think… maybe it should be a little more individualized? Which is why I quit nutrition school, am becoming a chef and holistic nutritionist, where I can help people, like you, figure out that 50-30-20 i s NOT for everyone. I love fat and I love protein, and as much as I love carbs… they don’t love me as much Ok, off my soapbox for now.

And Janetha, back from her wedding and honeymoon, has similar thoughts as I do about her changing lifestyle- eating more intuitively than by the book. And again, I responded within seconds of reading it;

Don’t worry about not blogging everyday anymore- I don’t either! And I love that you’re eating intuitively know, with just the basics of balance- this is what I’m doing now and it feels GREAT. I feel like such a weight was lifted off my shoulders after the wedding. NOT that I am going to start scarfing chips and chocolate cake, but if I am hungry and want something… I EAT it. No eating 5 meals a day, because I “need” to… eating when I’m hungry, stopping when I’m full. So simple, so liberating.

Now it’s time to really put those things I learned into action.

What I am understanding now, is, I am happy. Happy with the way I look, happy with the way I feel- and it’s almost overwhelming, because I can not remember the last time I was completely happy with myself. I Either I was too skinny or too fat… never right where I wanted to be.  Now I am here. And I am ready to learn what is right for my body to stay this way, by focusing on myself like I never have before. Eating intuitively- really intuitively, but paying attention to the things I have learned about myself. Things such as making an effort to eat more healthy fats and proteins over carbs- especially sugars. Not low carb in any way- but making an effort to focus on plant based carbohydrates than anything artificial. Eating close to the earth, eating fresh, eating organic. Exercising for fun- not to burn calories. This will be hard for me, because I love my bread, my pasta, my starches. But it is crucial for me to at least try eating this way more- because it makes me feel good. And my ultimate goal is  to stay truly happy with my life.

With this, you will without a doubt see a change in the blog. The blog has gone through a lot of changes in the last year- as have I.  Instead of my day-t0-day eats, I will be going back to my weekly recaps, along with hilights of certain dishes or foods I ate, made, or really intrigue me. I will be focusing on my new way of life, my new food philosophy, and taking you along for the ride. No more slimdowns, no more challenges, no more strict workout routines or calorie counting. No labels. Just me, enjoying food, enjoying eating, enjoying exercise and practicing moderation- not obsession.

So here’s to the journey. Here is to my new life. Focusing on myself and what is right for me, and me alone, like never before. Ditching labels, ditching diets and eating intuitively. Enjoying my food, respecting my body and living life to the fullest.

Now it’s time to hear from you: Have you ever felt this kind of personal revelation? The kind where you look at yourself in the mirror and realized, shocked, you are really, truly happy with the person that looks back? How did you react?

And if you would like to share, what works for you,  food-wise? I thought it would be interesting to share all the different ways we eat, because as we all know, it is very, very personal.

Peace and love,

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Daniel August 15, 2010 at 12:44 pm

Letting go of calorie counting is a huge step and I’m glad you’re taking it! It can be challenging at first but really don’t give up. I’m working on exercising for health instead of calorie burn and it’s quite difficult but I’m not down and I’m not out. I’m glad to see that you feel so much better after your wedding and that you’ve learned a great deal about yourself! I just wrote a post about living life to be happy and healthy as defined by you , not by others. I wish you the best as you feel better about your new self!

janetha August 15, 2010 at 2:37 pm

a-MEN. love you!

Mindfully Emily August 15, 2010 at 7:42 pm

Wonderful, beautiful, inspiring post :) I am also making my way to that blissful happy place you describe and could not be more excited. I am starting to do whatever fitness feels right on that day, and not worry about the calorie burn or obsessive running. I am also starting to eat what my body craves and when I want it; bring on the healthy fats, proteins, fruits a veggies!! Thanks for posting this and I am so glad that you did talk about yourself, it is wonderful to hear how your life is changing for the better!!

Heather Eats Almond Butter August 15, 2010 at 8:22 pm

What a wonderful post, and I love that you are through with labels! Me too, and yes, I remember when I got to this point. It took getting pregnant (not the recommended route for everyone :) ). The pregnancy basically forced me to let go of so many of my “food rules”, and it is wonderful. There are still foods I know I can’t eat a lot of like sugar, but I am eating much more intuitively. Now, if I really want something, I just eat it. It’s like a whole new world, and I’m much happier.

Thanks for sharing your story. You just sound so happy, and many many congrats on your marriage!

P.S. I loved your comment on my post by the way. :)

sophia August 15, 2010 at 10:45 pm

Wow, this is a GREAT, uplifting, happy post. It takes YEARS, or possibly never, for most people to reach the happy place you are now. I’m so happy for you, and I find your story so inspiring and motivating and encouraging.

Gena August 16, 2010 at 10:26 am

Huge congrats on your wedding, Kristin — but moreover, congratulations on these huge revelations!

sarah August 16, 2010 at 7:17 pm

Fantastic post :) I’m currently searching for that happy place where I’m focused on my health and not calories or my weight. Your post has really provided me more inspiration to focus on my intuition and not my preconcieved food rules. Thanks for sharing your journey and congrats on the wedding!

Kristin August 18, 2010 at 7:30 pm

I’m so glad I could be of inspiration to you! Thank you!

Susan August 16, 2010 at 11:15 pm

LOVE this post!! I had a similar revelation in university. I was trying SO hard to be this skinny ideal that I realized I was losing my life in the process. I stopped going out because I was scared of food and drinking. I thought being thin would make me happy, but I instead became miserable by the limits I was putting on myself. Ever since I left for Alberta three months ago, I’ve been the exact opposite. I’ve been living, eating, exercising when I want to and how I want to. I’ve been open about how I’ve gained a few pounds in the process, but I’ve even lost a couple just by cutting out regular eating out. I can’t describe how freeing it is to go out with friends and have a beer again. When I look at pictures of myself now, I may be a smidge fluffier than the more restrictive Susan of the past, but the happiness I now radiate is unmistakable.

Kristin August 18, 2010 at 7:29 pm

AMEN. It is SO freeing. I’m glad someone else understands! :D

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